Meet the Incels
- AD HOC
- Jan 18, 2019
- 6 min read
The Incel movement is the bastard child of the Internet. A side effect of true freedom of congregation that only an online community can offer. It’s a group of young men, who justify their seething hatred and utter lack of respect for the opposite sex by claiming to be intentionally rejected and often berated by women.
It’s a glitch in the Matrix occasionally spitting out mass murderers, the likes of Elliot Rodger, who was a self-proclaimed incel messiah. In 2014, he went on a shooting spree killing seven people including himself.
Or… it’s a support group for the misunderstood, socially awkward men, who got tired of constant rejection and decided to stick to cyberspace where interactions with other users are solely based on one’s ability to hold a conversation.
It can only be one of those two things, not both.
Incel stands for involuntary celibate and consists of predominantly male members with a wide spectrum of convictions regarding what it is exactly that the world owes them. On one side, there are men who simply failed to ever attract a girl (or a femoid/Stacy). These are socially incompetent virgins looking for validation in society through sex and not finding it. It often leads to self-loathing and built-up anger or even depression. As explained by one of the members, who preferred to stay anonymous:
“I don't think not getting laid would by itself drive you mad, but being an incel is more than just not being able to get laid, it's identifying yourself as not being able to get laid, there are guys out there that can't get laid, but they aren't obsessed with it. They're not incels, they're virgins. Point being, if you identify as an incel you are most likely already mad, because to do so I feel is a sign of obsessiveness first and anxiety and depression second. You can also be mad and suffer and get laid. This isn't a judgement, I am an incel and I am mad.”
Humans are inherently pack animals and even the most antisocial of incels needs some human contact. That’s how “the manosphere” was created. It’s the collective of forums, subreddits and websites started by and for incels. One of the major nodes in this network is 4chan and its sub-section /r9k/ - ROBOT9001. The name comes from the fact that many of the users consider themselves to be autistic or with Asperger’s syndrome, hence they call each other “robots”.
This is a message left to AD HOC by an incel when researching for the story:
I went on /r9k/ to engage with its users and try to understand where the anger is coming from. A small part of what I saw was purely hateful messages, aimed at berating women and blaming them for all the evil in the world. However, most of the content would be people socializing with each other, the fluff type of posts. And then there is the rest of it. Posts where the author would often make their suicidal intentions clear in the first line of the text. Signalling the self-pitiful, maniacal depressive tendencies in a not so silent cry for help.
“Turn 31 in a few months’ time and wow, I think I might end it this year. Job's killing me, lack of a social life's killing me, videogames are boring the fuck out of me, still a giant virgin of course, still living with my parents […] I have and a bunch of other shit that's probably killing me as well. And now 4chan seems oddly social competent (and young), like I've been through a lot of the boards and somehow everyone's figured out the secret of how to live. […] What the fuck? Did I miss out a memo on a group suicide for wizards or something? Where did the older social retards go?”
What incentivises hope is that the help often comes. Other users would attempt to pull them off the ledge by suggesting solutions to their problems. Oddly enough the help is often unwelcome. Responses looking to point out how to escape from the things that make an incel suffer are treated as virtue signalling, something that would quickly get you banned from most forums.
It’s as if once they tried the blackpill nothing can bring them back. Correction, they refuse to be brought back, because that would mean admitting they were wrong about something. One thing to know about incel is that it’s a proud group that does not not take criticism lightly. If you’re confused as to what a blackpill is, here’s an excerpt from Tim Squirrell’s blog, that explains it perfectly:
“The Red Pill's nihilistic cousin. The idea behind "redpilling" is that men recognise that the world is unfair and stacked against them in favour of women. From there, they can game the system by becoming an "alpha" male, going to the gym, treating women poorly, and so on.
The blackpill rejects this, saying that there can be no personal solutions to systemic problems, and that the world was, is and always will be stacked against men who are "genetically inferior", and that women are inherently wired to prefer men with particular kinds of facial features, bone structure, and body type.”
Eric is 20 years old and attributes his inceldom to the fact his parents are black and white. He can’t stand the word blackpilled just as much the incel movement in general. “I hate that it's just a meme thing. I hate that people think your attitude has any role in it. I hate that people think you can be white and incel. I hate the idea of "looksmaxxing" aka trying to deny reality” he says.
“People all hate mixed race people, almost instinctively. They especially hate men who are mixed. A man is supposed to be amongst the leaders of his people, someone that his people can depend on and look up to... and yet, because I am mixed, I have been rejected by all people. I have no people. Nobody feels comfortable around me and everyone views me as an outcast. […] I'm angry that people won't just stop race mixing and admit that it's wrong, it hurts the child more than anyone else.”
Eric seems to be hell-bent on the idea that everything that’s gone wrong in his life is due to the colour of his skin. At 20 years old he’s already cut himself off from society. Although not at his own wish: “I don't consider it cutting myself off of my own volition. More like being forced to do so. Like a pirate making someone walk the plank.”
Where does the infamy surrounding inceldom come from? What’s on the other side of the spectrum mentioned earlier? It’s the men taking their hatred to another level. Let me be clear, I’m not talking about every incel here. Like I said earlier there is levels to this madness.
In the dominance hierarchy they talk about so often, they reside in the lowest “subhuman” level. They’re the ones deemed by the “Stacy’s” of the world not worthy of joining the reproduction chain. To blame the men on top of that chain (“Chads”) or the hierarchy itself would mean admitting that they didn’t measure up.
That inability to admit to their failures becomes quite obvious when you consider how badly a hateful incel takes criticism. They dodge the points that make them uncomfortable, afraid of the realization that comes with addressing them. It’s interesting when you consider the fact that they’re often their own worst critics.
But wait, if they can’t blame other men, can’t blame the system, for sure can’t blame themselves… who’s fault is it then? You guessed it, it’s down to women.
For them there’s simply no other way to move forward than to channel the frustration with the opposite sex and let the hatred pour out. I could quote Elliot Rodger’s manifesto to make my point here, but I won’t. Google it if you need to.
I asked Eric how he feels about women. For someone who claims not to think about them too often, he sure has some specific ideas: “They have a lot of power in today's society, but that's just natural I think. I think they are more sociopathic and cruel than men, which works well in a modern world. They also have near unlimited control over men since they have the most coveted resource of all time within them, their womb. Eh. I don't hate them or anything. They're just whatever.” That defeatist attitude might seem unhealthy, but hey, it’s better than the alternative.
By Adam Kaczynski
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